“This may be long overdue. But there’s some things I’d like to say. There’s this hurt I’ve been carrying. A lie held in the depths of my heart. For so long I told myself things were perfect and when you left I held onto that image of us – of you. Together, I thought I couldn’t live without you and apart I realized how far gone I really was. I’m finally ready to admit you just weren’t it. I’m ready to move forward. You breaking my heart was the best thing you ever did. So this is me saying goodbye because I never got the chance to – not like you did.”

Saying goodbye is tough. Even when others tell us we should just let go (and we know we should) it’s a hard pill to swallow. Sometimes the good times ensnare our hearts keeping us stuck. Or maybe it’s all the expectations of what could have been. Regardless of the why it’s time to say goodbye.

It’s been exactly a year now since my breakup. I’ve been thinking about how much I’ve grown and also how much I’ve felt stuck. I know a lot of it has to do with your mindset. The “goodbye” is a process and how slow or fast your go through is up to you.

We each process hurt and heartbreak differently. Some people go out on loads of dates but that’s just not me. I had to really sit and process my feelings. And the other night I was thinking “Oh my gosh! It’s been a year!” I’ve been through so much. So much growth but then just like that the memories consume me. I started thinking to myself “No, I’m done with this.” Going through my breakup was hard but necessary. It taught me a lot about who I was and who I wanted to be. Realizing it’s been a year I just didn’t want my ex to have more time – more of me. He’s gotten 3 years of my time plus this past year I spent grieving. I just woke up inside and said “It’s enough.”

Sometimes it’s good to give yourself a limit and cut things off after a certain point. A year for me was a wake up call. I just want to start living again! You always have a choice to make your life the way you want it. Sometimes the pain can be too much but you know when the time is right. When things are right for you it will just happen. So don’t pressure yourself the way I did. Don’t listen to what others say on how you “should” feel or compare yourself to other people. You know when to say goodbye.

Ps…Remember You Are Fearfully Made

xoxo Taylor Nicole